Connect with the TCS Social Curriculum

Conflict resolution is a life skill children need not only at school but also at home. We can diffuse power struggles with our children through this simple yet universal technique.

WIN/WIN APPROACH:

“How can we make this

work for the both of us?”

I feel_______. I want______.

Essential components of communication include tone, how the information is framed and ensuring that words are heard.

REDIRECTING OUR CHILDREN BY FRAMING OUR LANGUAGE IN A POSITIVE “CAN-DO” STYLE HELPS ELICIT A DESIRED RESPONSE:

• “Please use walking feet!” Instead of “Don’t run!”

• “Please tell me in your own voice what you want.” Instead of “I can’t hear you when you whine!”

• “It is almost dinner time but you can pick a cookie now and place it on a plate for later.” Instead

of “No, you can’t have a cookie now! We are going to eat dinner soon.”

Learning from our mistakes is an important skill to model. When a child makes a mistake or makes a poor choice, the act of reflection encourages responsibility and accountability.

WE CAN REFLECT WITH

OUR CHILDREN BY ASKING:

• “What can we/you do to fix this problem?”

• “Tell me, what is your plan?”

• “What might work better the next time?”